I had lunch with a dear friend of mine this week. We did our usual catching up and talking about our kids, sharing things about work; and what was currently keeping us both busy. As we were wrapping up our lunch and preparing to leave she looked at me and said, “I always enjoy meeting with you and catching up. Every time I leave you, I immediately call my husband when I get in the car to tell him how much I love and appreciate him.” (This occurs after she has bitched about him not doing anything around the house, and talked about how he does not take initiative and that he needs to simply hire someone to get the damn projects done at home, because it takes him too long!)
Why, oh why, does it often take someone else's tragedy for us to fully appreciate what we have in front of us? We are so quick to pick out flaws in others, especially our spouses and immediate family members. I wish I could complain about Daniel not doing enough around the house. I wish I could split things 25/75 right now, probably even go 15/85 but my reality does not allow that. My reality says yes, your husband or wife should have closed the cabinet dwarers (a pet peeve at my house), started the laundry, hung up that picture that you asked them to hang two weeks ago, however those mundane things are not the end of the world. How about be thankful that your spouse took your kids to school, or simply sat and watched a television show with you, or worked an eight hour day to be able to provide. Be thankful. Celebrate the people in your life.
I am guilty of this as well. I took our boys to the local amusement park yesterday and a young girl at the waterpark was bald. She may have been suffering from alopecia, but most likely she was battling her own cancerous demons. I grabbed Lucas and Reed and held on tight for a few moments, feeling grateful for their good health, something I often take for granted.
Instead of searching for the next big thing, be thankful for what you have and for what is in front of you. Read this and do as my friend did, grab your spouse and give them an extra piece of yourself today. Take a moment and say I love you. Appreciate that they are there and appreciate what you have with them every single day.
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Driven by a need to help others. I have known from a young age that this is what I wanted to do. This is my very real, somewhat sarcastic, look into my newfound widowhood. I hope this site will help you as much as it helps me.