Do you really need to prepare for Halloween? I guess that depends on how old your children are and what your family traditions tend to be. Daniel and I have always loved Halloween. We enjoy dressing up and trick or treating as a family. I love to decorate the house inside and out with spiders, ghosts and pumpkins. I figured it would be more difficult this year because it was Lucas's birthday as well as another holiday to celebrate as a "first" without Daniel.
The boys are obsessed with superheroes right now. Reed dressed as the Hulk, or "Hulk smash" as he likes to call him. Lucas was Batman. This is the first year Lucas asked me what I was going to dress up as. He pleaded with me to dress up. Initially, he wanted me to be "Diana". (Wonder Woman for those of you not on a first name basis with her) but I quickly explained to him that she doesn't wear enough clothes for mommy. Then he said would you be black widow? Sure, why not? She has red hair and wears all-black. I meet most of the criteria without much work. I got Avengers patches and put them on my clothes and ordered some bullet bracelets and accessories. Lucas refused to refer to me as anything other than “black widow.” We were driving in the car and he said “Black widow, can you change my movie?” It put a huge smile on my face. He’s so innocent and imaginative right now. Daniel would have absolutely loved this superhero stage, hard to believe he's not here as Captain America or Ironman.
I decided early on to trick or treat with friends. I knew it would make it easier for me to manage my feelings and the loss wouldn't be so deep. We arrived at their neighborhood had a quick mommy made boxed cake and prepared to get as much candy as possible! A good friend of mine said "you look like you could kick some serious ass," with my bullet sash, pointy toed knee high boots and bullet bracelets. Knowing myself pretty well, I think I could kick some serious ass too. Daniel would approve.
I filled my to-go wine glass, got the wagon out of the car, put the boys in off we went to build more memories.
Meet the Author (me)
Driven by a need to help others. I have known from a young age that this is what I wanted to do. This is my very real, somewhat sarcastic, look into my newfound widowhood. I hope this site will help you as much as it helps me.