I was sitting in a Prepare crisis training refresher course today at work. In case something catastrophic were to happen I am trained to be a first responder. I was skimming through my notes from last winter when I had the second phase of this training. At the top of one of the pages were resources for dealing with grief and loss. At the time I wrote it down but have never looked back at it since. Sesame Street.com was listed and ended up being a great resource for my own family and for young children. I never even thought to look at my own therapeutic resources for things to help my children manage their grief.
What I heard over and over again after Daniel passed is that "oh, your children are so young. They will be fine." Or " We can't help them because they are so young."
First and foremost they both have suffered consequences from the death, and secondly those consequences are never going to go away. They are going to stick with them and this will be a life long journey for all of us. A journey that most don't understand and cant even begin to comprehend.
It really does freeze you. Your responses are no longer normal. Your emotions are no longer normal. You’re still running on adrenaline. Still in a constant frenzy but finding help for yourself and your kids is imperative. Don't be afraid to try several avenues before finding the right fit.
Meet the Author (me)
Driven by a need to help others. I have known from a young age that this is what I wanted to do. This is my very real, somewhat sarcastic, look into my newfound widowhood. I hope this site will help you as much as it helps me.