Preparing yourself for being alone, utterly alone. You're inundated and overwhelmed with help at the beginning of any trauma or diagnosis. So much help that when people offer you can't even respond to all the offers. Once the death occurs however most people slide away into the darkness. They feel like they've done their part and in their defense they have. There are a few that continue to ask and volunteer their time and effort but as time goes on you feel more and more alone. The help and the support slowly disappears. The distance grows between you and the people that you know. They can't comprehend what you've gone through and what you continue to go through. People don’t know what to say or how to act. You're on an island.
Prepare yourself. Slowly begin to do the things that they had been helping with. Yard work, meals, cleaning, etc. Do not feel bad if the grass doesn't look perfect or isn't being maintained right now. If your kids live off chicken nuggets they will survive. Things will get easier. With time. For me, the household chores are not the issues though it is the all consuming grief that continues to take hold. The fact that your spouse is not returning. And the finality of the situation.
Meet the Author (me)
Driven by a need to help others. I have known from a young age that this is what I wanted to do. This is my very real, somewhat sarcastic, look into my newfound widowhood. I hope this site will help you as much as it helps me.